The English translation for 礼尚往来 is that courtesy demands/calls for reciprocity. It seems that the English expression is more direct. However, there are always people who don’t understand this simple principle. When someone lends a helping hand to his/her friend without hesitation, but the other party take it for granted or even 反客为主(reverse the position of the host and the guest), it is really disappointing. Although there is a saying that 助人为快乐之本(to help others is the source of happiness), the basic rule to retreat people better after receiving help from the other.

For self-advice.

看完了“楚汉争雄”，虽然片头写明“本故事纯属虚构”，但楚汉相争的历史人人皆有耳闻。

 

时势造英雄或英雄造时势，就有如顺天意而行或逆天而行。刘邦虽是市井之徒，纵得天意，顺时势，广的民心。项羽则是不折不扣的盖世英雄，文武双全，称雄称霸，且偏偏不信天命，敢与抗争。刘邦终得天下，但个中卑鄙计谋令人发指；项羽最终败在韩信的四面楚歌，于乌江自尽，但他的英雄本色流传后世。若要选出谁是真正的君主，还真不好选。但若只看后果（result-oriented）， 那当然是汉朝始祖刘邦。懂得攻于心顺时势，正是刘邦的成功之道。

 

人最脆弱，但最难测的就是心思。但人的心，却也是屈于时势，所谓人心所向。刘邦出尔反尔，虽说是被吕后韩信及一帮臣子所逼，但最终他也是看清了大势所趋。

 

或许，永远的真理就是：得到了想要的就必须放弃某些拥有的。

The result of my last examination in university was out last Friday. I was so happy to see my honours; but MH gave me the only “odd” grade in my transcription. Anyway, my hounour gave me much joy and made me feel lucky.

 

Well, after the last paper in early May, I had indeed gone through many other “tests” in job interviews. I would say every face-to-face is more complex than an oral test. It is not just a matter of delivering the best answer, but to “win” the interviewers’ hearts. Therefore, an interview is a test of show. Of course, there are definitely written tests: essay writing, comprehension, mathematics, analytical, and personality test. Taking these tests reminded me of something that my senior told me: “you feel like having test everyday in work without any mental preparation; your boss will ask you any question at any time—it is just like a test.” Perhaps, this is another difference between studying and working: you can prepare for examinations in schools, but you won’t be able to make full preparation for any test in your work. True yah!?

     其实这几天发生了挺多事情的，也有很多想法，还想过blog 要写些什么。但就是有太多东西在脑海里，所以干脆叫“无题”。本来想去名“杂想”，但觉得这个“杂”字不顺眼。

 

     先从南京之旅说起。之前的文章是南京之旅(I)，不过应该没有(II)了，因为(II)就在这篇“无题”里了。南京是个古城。可是，令人感叹的是古城的旁边是一座座现代的高楼，把那一丝的古香古色的味道冲淡了。看看拍出来的照片，总少不了有高楼的背景。或许，乐观一点的说，这就是人类进步的象征吧。其实想想，有几个现代人愿意回到没有电的古代去生活呢？

 

　　再南京还看到新加坡的面包物语，一样的店面装潢，不过没有去吃它的面包；猜想味道应该有些不同吧。ＫＦＣ在市区随处可见。在地下地铁站外，出了地铁站到了路面，相隔不到几十米，就有两间ＫＦＣ；叹。

 

　　在老妹的学校里混了几天，没有被宿舍大楼的管理员抓到。用过不少招数－－和老妹分开走，自个儿快步走，不看管理员，假装是习于宿舍的学生妹；用雨伞遮阳，顺便把整张脸也遮住；边走边喝水，遮住半张脸；好庆幸。但这也说明了我只是凡凡的小妹，不起眼。哈。

 

　　南京人是友好的，比起广州人的冷漠，我可以感到这个城市的温暖。老妹说，人们变得冷淡，一部分是因为社会上的“假”太多了－－假货，假钞，假广告。为了不让自己上当，便不让自己与人热情接触；真是悲哀。

 

　　几天的行程，到了一个陌生的地方，有公务，也看了妹妹。或许，我将来的工作有这样的机会吧。

 

　　要感叹的是，离开新加坡几天，错过了一个面试机会，不知会拖到什么时候；还错过了较补习的机会。事情就这么发生在那两天。老妹有过这样的经验，也只能发挥阿Ｑ精神说：“如果你没来，可能也没有这些机会。”所以说，生活中试药做出取舍的－－鱼于熊掌，不可兼得。现在回到新快２个星期了，没有接到面试的电话。等吧。

 

　　这些天，也慢慢的去了解自己，因为发现身边的人变了，便想看看自己是否也变了。是的，人都会随着时间而改变，甚至连口味都会变。但为什么而改变，也许自己也说不清吧。

 

　　无题。