I had experience in year 1 while I got sick the day after I spent sometime studying in library. I knew it was the "bad" air in the air-com room.

 

My room is very comfortable: fully furnitured; computer is ready; music is on the air; snacks are on the tea table; the air is fresh. There are too many "distractions" here, so I decided to go to the study room to study.

 

I got sick again after stuyding in the study room for 2 days.There is just a smell of "bad" 'air when I first step into the room. So I recovered a few days. Yesterday I went to the study room again. I thought I just could overcome the "curse", but i could not. Last night I had a slight headache.

 

So what should I do? I just told myfelf never to study at the study room again this morning when I woke up.

 

Yup. That is it.

老妹说女生都是叽叽喳喳聊个没完；话讲多了，感情也就深了。是啊，我也懂，也挺羡慕那种姐妹淘的；不过也要看对象。其实真正的好朋友是那种能够彼此心灵相应的，就像航和玲：久久见一次面，但对彼此的感觉不曾淡去。这样才是真正老友。

 

真正朋友是对彼此有挂念的，就像情人一般。偶尔一通sms 问好，update 各自的生活，不经意的一句“好久不见，不好意思，太忙了”。

 

女生和男生也是可以成为好朋友的，而且少了女生间的斤斤计较，多了一份潇洒。其实，情人的爱情最终将被友情取代。没有友情，两个人是无法生活一辈子的。当对方叫着“dear”，老了就像是“dear friend”。

 

是的，dear friend 是不会增加你不必要的烦恼的  J

 I would say I am not a “nobody” in all my school project groups. But I feel so “nobody” with my so called “old friends” group. I am not sure whether I did it very correctly as I finally told them how I feel—their inner circle and their shield. The outcome was that a few tried to explained, and one or two just ignored my message. I know C is the same kind as me, but she has passed it and nothing relating to these “old friends” will upset her. I am still in the process. I still do bother about my relationship with them. I tried to recall happy moments when we were together, but what came to my mind was the time when I injured my left ankle, there were only 2 girls in the room of 8, who did take care of me. I said “Thank you” again to DanNi, but just through E-mail. It just once again proves that 好人有好报. DanNi is now successful in her career and live in a good life. Indeed, I did not really get very close to their group, but just I would not reject their invitation to their gatherings. However, after every gatherings with them, especially the resent years, I did not feel happy, but just felt more and more distant from them—I know nothing about their happenings.

 

I see the fact that there must be a leader in any group, acting as the magnet attracting other elements to it. This group has a leader, whom is the one giving “advice” to others. Perhaps I am too independent that I don’t need or don’t want her advice; there is no any attraction between us, hence I don’t go to her circle. However, what is true advice? Thinking of your own interest and pushing others to scarify for you? Having no experience and to give unpractical suggestions? Perhaps I am not in the circle, so I see what is happening in the circle more clearly.

 

So I should learn from C staying away from things or people who do not do me any good. Why do I put myself to suffer from ignorance? I wish them good, as long as they enjoy it. Good quotes of friendship:

 

Robert Louis Stevenson:

We are all travelers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend.

Margaret Guenther:

We all need friends with whom we can speak of our deepest concerns, and who do not fear to speak the truth in love to us.

Henry David Thoreau:

True friendship can afford true knowledge. It does not depend on darkness and ignorance.

Francis David:

We need not think alike to love alike.

Albert Camus:

Don't believe your friends when they ask you to be honest with them. All they really want is to be maintained in the good opinion they have of themselves.

Alice Walker:

No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.

Henry Ward Beecher:

It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. So to love a man that you cannot bear to see a stain upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that is friendship.

Sir Francis Bacon:

We read that we ought to forgive our enemies; but we do not read that we ought to forgive our friends.

W. Somerset Maugham:

It's no good trying to keep up old friendships. It's painful for both sides. The fact is, one grows out of people, and the only thing is to face it.

William Blake:

It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.

 

 

I finally used my cooker to have steamboat today! It was a thunder day, but it was cool to have steamboat.

 

2 guys and 2 girls; then later persuaded 1 more guy to join in, as we really could not finish eating all the food. The food was fresh, low-cholesterol, and different from what we eat usually at school canteens or outside food stalls, so we girls like it. The guys did not say much about the steamboat, but they liked the jelly that I made. Now I can understand those people who like cooking that the gladness of seeing people enjoy their food. Well, perhaps, it is just like what c h said “like my mum”. I guess every female has this “motherly” gene inside.

 

Y l is working as an engineer, but thinks that engineer won’t have much room for career growth. I now recall that my mentor told this to me some time ago. Perhaps the only way to earn high salary being in the field of engineering is to be a professor. However, it is not easy, and takes time. Banking is the field that many people like to go, including many engineers. Well, it is true. It pays S$4k+ to a fresh graduate. (here he got it). Being practical, 前途=钱途！

 

Back to the dinner. We are like friends and colleagues having dinner together, sharing information and knowledge and joking with one another. It is enjoyable and meaningful. Perhaps, next time when we all are working, our dinner gathering might be different: no longer eating at hall TV room, no longer using a mini cooker; but the sharing should be the same. Still, sharing is happiness (quoted from my RGS classmate Amy, which I somehow just remember it so clearly).